Seeing and blaming in others what we can't see in ourselves. Nev says unintegrated shadows make people more reactive and more prone to projection, as when someone blames avoidant partners for an avoidance that is really their own.
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- Women who call in avoidant partners
Nev describes a pattern she often sees in clients. A woman says she is fully open to love but keeps attracting emotionally avoidant partners. Underneath, unresolved trauma has closed her…
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- What you attract mirrors what you deny
Painful experiences that keep recurring are mirrors of a repressed self that wants to be integrated. The trait you blame in a partner is often the one you can't see in yourself.