In high school Mia was furious at her mother for 'giving up' and being 'weak'. Raised by an emotionally shut-down father, she did eight school plays, modeled and went to constant auditions, feeding on rejection while 'deep in the anger stage of grief'. Today she talks to her teenage self: 'I hear you, I get it.'
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