Integrity is one of the themes that runs through Nectar of Time. Below is everything in the Nectarium that touches on it.
Where it comes up 2
Within this theme 15
Concepts 2
- Decimation of Decorum
Tamir's name for the loss of respect, care for reputation and shame online. With news cycles this fast, the scammer assumes 'you'll forget I scammed you next week'. Most grifting is done…
- Integrity
The reason Sheela gives for leaving Bhagwan. Her job was to protect him, his community and his teachings, and when he went against that she could no longer do it. She says her integrity was…
People 3
- Ma Anand Sheela
Born Sheela Ambalal Patel in Gujarat, India (1949); personal secretary to Osho and spokesperson of the Rajneeshpuram commune in Oregon in the early 1980s, widely seen as its…
- Coffeezilla
Tamir's favorite chronicler of YouTuber grifts. He targets the reckless more than the outright criminal, often crypto scams, and insists recklessness is still wrong.
- Bernie Madoff
The archetypal full grifter. Tamir contrasts him with the far more common 'half-grifts' of YouTube.
Quotes 3
So people say I love you, I love you. Better, more honest would be to say: hey, come, we roll together on this carpet. Cause it's different. It's not the same thing.
My job was to protect him, protect his community and protect his teachings. And when he himself is going against, and I cannot protect him, it's time for me to go. Then somebody else has to take over my job.
I was not with Bhagwan for my name and title and the luxuries being a secretary... I had my own integrity, and that integrity was not for sale.
Insights 5
- Clarity about when to leave keeps love from suffering
Sheela says her love never turned dark because, when the time came, she was clear it was time to go and left without looking back. That clarity gave her strength instead of leading her…
- Responsibility for what we share
People cut ties over polarizing posts during wars and elections. If you later realize you no longer believe what you posted, you may have lost friends for nothing, so sharing takes work and…
- Scandals wash away faster now
Bad PR used to follow you for years. As news cycles keep speeding up, scandals fade within days, which removes much of the reputational cost that once kept people honest.
- Tradition makes us call desire love
Sheela observes that when two people are attracted, 'love' suddenly appears because tradition, religion and culture only permit sex in its name. She would rather people be honest about…
- You can leave someone without falling out of love
Sheela insists she never 'got the ick' with Bhagwan. She left because staying would have cost her integrity, not because her love ended. In her view, love and leaving are not opposites when…
Practices 1
- Be honest about desire
Instead of dressing attraction up as 'I love you', say honestly what you want. Sheela says honesty is easy for her because she was raised on it, and asks whether a relationship without…
Stories 1
- Leaving Bhagwan with tears in her eyes
When Sheela decided to leave Bhagwan, members of her commune 'family' begged her to stay, reminding her of everything she had and all the work she had put in. Tears ran down her face as she…